Advice on Going from Survival to Success for the "Instant Generation."



Day 65: Old Fasioned Networking


Every Opportunity and Every Connection Counts

Back on task–moving from survival to success. As you know, I am not only job hunting for a Human Resources position within a corporate company, but I am also a marketing executive for the largest online health businesses in the United States. I started with them back in September, and even though I am 110% behind them as a company and love their products, I have had a problem enrolling shoppers.

Why has this been so hard for me? I could make a list of reasons why I think it hasn’t worked but if I am honest, getting out there and networking, it’s just not easy for me. Not to mention, I have been trying to do it in random places just hoping to make things work. Well, I am starting to change my strategy a little bit. I am doing so good old-fashioned, face to face networking. I am great opportunities coming up this week to do that very thing and guess what?? Instead of being completely terrified, I am excited!

On Thursday I am joining a “let’s get fit and network” meetup that will be walking together at a local park about two towns over. I love walking, and being fit is what this company is about–perfect fit. Saturday I am doing a 5K to raise money for a Lupus Foundation. Great place to meet people and network with those that obviously care about their health. (Sorry, but, there are easier ways to raise money for a cause than running just over 3 miles! Just Sayin’!). The Following week I am going to a business networking meeting at a local resturant. It’s time for me to hustle, so people ask me–how are you making this work??


Day 58: At it again and on “Do it Again”


Job Applications
Applying Again

If you remember back in January, I said I was taking the month off from applying to jobs because I was just getting so worn out and tired of the process. I was hearing nothing and getting nowhere. I had gone through developmental training, got help from a career counselor and had friends putting themselves out on the line for me and still getting nowhere. By the end of December I was so tired and to the point of tears. Everyone was telling me I was well qualified, my resumes and letters were well written. I was told nothing was wrong with me but that the job market was just scarce. I was reminded that there are people who graduated when I did and still were without any job so I needed to be thankful that I have a job. I will admit, although sometimes, things are not easy here I am grateful to have a job.

I ended up taking a break for a bit longer than the month. At the time, I thought it was the right thing to do. I had just moved into a new apartment, started taking driving lessons and thought that if I worked hard, I would prove my value to my job. I thought that if I showed my value to my job, I would be able to move up and continue to contribute to the agency. I am now fully convinced, in heart, in mind, and in spirit that things need to change.

My driving lessons are going well, but even if I managed to obtain a car, there is no way I could afford the insurance or gas. My job has made it clear to me that there is nowhere I can move within the organization. I can’t stay where I am. Too many days I go home feeling worthless and undervalued. So, my job search is back in full force; this time with Boston on the radar. While I was there I saw and heard about so many job opportunities that I lit up inside; in a way, I have not lit up in a long time. I have now filled out five applications in two weeks. My resume, with any luck and the help of God, may get into the hands of the CEO at one of the companies I applied to.


Melaleuca The Wellness Company: CONFIDENCE 

Meanwhile, while I have been searching for a new job my dreams have been getting bigger. Do you remember the Dream Board I made? Well, that accessible house, I want to give someone I love the ability to see their design plans for a universally designed home to come to fruition. I also want to start a fund that is set aside to help churches to meet financial needs so that they have no excuse not to be accessible and open to people with disabilities. I have been seriously considering giving up on Melaleuca, as a marketing director.

I love their products, they have worked for me, but I keep feeling like direct sales are just not for me. For some reason, I just can’t do this. My mentor (poor guy) called me last night. I was on my way to Physical Therapy, so I only texted him in return, but as I was walking home I was thinking: maybe I should just tell him I quit. Thankfully, I skyped with my boyfriend later that night. He is taking a bold step in his career aspirations and I am so proud of him. I realized that he already thinks I am amazing (Don’t ask me why; I couldn’t tell you!). But, I know worked at Melaleuca he would be so proud of me, and I would be able to meet my financial goals and dreams. After talking to him, I decided not to tell my mentor I was quitting. On top of that, this morning I heard a video about confidence from Steven Furtick called “Do it Again.” I am not giving up.








Day 40: Nine Years away but; hopeful

Logo for the Community Action Partnership

This week I went to a couple of training classes for work. The first was on Saturday. This training was badly titled “How to Manage your Finances.” The reason I think it was poorly titled is that I thought the training was going to teach principles of budgeting–that didn’t happen. (I’ll stick with using the EveryDollar budgeting tool you can find here.) Instead of being a “Managing your Money” type of training it was more about what it takes to own your first home. Yeah, surprise, I’m not there yet! Not only do I not want to stay in the state where I currently reside but my income to debt ratio is what you call HORRIBLE! Stupid student loan debt! I am at least nine years away from owning my own home.

Currently, I am working for a non-profit organization so; thankfully I qualify for the Public Service Loan Forgiveness Program. (Click PSLF for more information). I have been paying my loans through this program for a little over a year. A little less than nine years to go. This realization gave me a little more clarity for my future. I am going to stay in public service. I had been preparing myself for public service for a long time; I recently had to change routes. At first, I thought once I had “lost my way;” so to speak that there was no way I could be a public servant anymore. Thankfully, I obtained the job I currently have, and I can still work for organizations with meaningful missions; not just an eye on the bottom line.

I went to a second training on Tuesday of this past week. I had always known that where I worked was a Community Action Program [CAP] (there is a huge Community Action Partnership logo in our boardroom). At the training, I attended, however; I learned that CAP’s exist all over our nation. I love my non-profit. I respect their mission and what they do–but I want to, and I am qualified enough to; work more directly with clients. I have put aside the job search/job application process for this month, and I am sticking to that. I am keeping everything I have learned under deep consideration. When this month is through, which is soon, I will be watching an Ashley Stahl webinar on cold networking and begin my new job search that way.

The concept that CAP’s are nationwide has not only given me clarity on my future, but it has also given me hope. I have hope that I can find a job that will allow me to use my skills and still remain a servant to the marginalized in our society. It also gives me hope that I can move to a more accessible place, a place more accepting of people with disabilities.


Day 37: A Break and a Revelation


“God, shatter the teeth of my debt so I am enslaved to nothing but You!”

As you know, last Saturday I moved into my new apartment and I wrote that having my own place would motivate me to work harder at my avocation. This all still holds true the break I am taking is from applying for a different full-time job. It’s not that I don’t need or want a new full-time job but; the rejections (or even worse, complete silence) is wearing me thin. I am taking a break from the job search for at least another 30 days.


At the beginning of the year, I started a devotional/prayer guide put out by Lifeway Women called “Redeemed.” You can find the guide here: 40 Days of Prayer. I have decided to use this devotional to spend time in prayer asking God for clarity, direction, and trust for my future. So far, I have enjoyed my devotional times very much. This guide asks you to read a few psalms a day and to allow what you have read in the Psalms to guide your prayer time. I usually don’t share what I learn during my devotional time publically because to me; devotional time is for the individual and God but a revelation came to me the other day while I was praying that gave me freedom to ask God to for success and financial freedom. Often, I am afraid to ask for such things because of the prevalence of the “health and wealth gospel.”

In many of the Psalms at the beginning of the book, there is a comparison between the righteous and the wicked. Several times within the first 12 Psalms David is asking for God to destroy the wicked in general or to destroy his personal enemies. Now, I know that “the wicked” and David’s personal “enemies” were real people, promoting injustice and trying to kill the innocent. But, for some reason, when I was reading Psalm 3 a particular verse made something click in my brain. In Psalm 3 David is crying out to God and writes:

Arise, O Lord; save me, O my God!
For You have smitten all my enemies on the cheek;
You have shattered the teeth of the wicked. (Psalm 3:7 NASB)

As I read these words in congruence with the other Psalms where the writers were asking for their enemies to be destroyed I realized that our enemies don’t always have to be people. Our greater enemy can be working through situations, situations that are keeping us enslaved to someone or something other than God Himself. In my life, the situation that came to my mind was my debt. I do realize that because I went to school and pursued multiple degrees I brought this debt on myself. I enslaved myself to debt. As long as I am in debt I am not free. As long as I am in debt I cannot give generously, I cannot meet the needs of others, I am not even free to give of my time. This is not how God intended me to live. I am not asking him to make me successful so I can live in a mansion, drive a BMW and have a private jet. I am asking him to bring about success so I can take care of myself and give freely and generously to others. I have every right to cry out to God and ask Him to be successful and “shatter the teeth” of my debt

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